Words carry weight.
They could be used to uplift or used as a weapon.
Many times in today’s world we attempt to express our emotions and feelings through words. The very action of placing meaning on words deteriorates the actual meaning of our emotions. This may sound odd, but the truth is labeling something as a tree, a tree, makes it less than the miraculous being it is. A bunch of cells that grow from the earth with food of water oxygen and sunlight. Something so profound that can live for decades even centuries through all sorts of weather and natural disasters. You can cut a branch off and it will regrow. Shed leaves and sprout again. To compartmentalize a tree to a 4 letter word is a way for us humans to organize the world around us. This is fine for conversation. We are forever trying to organize the world for us to digest it better in our minds.
To do so severely limits what a tree really is.
We seem to do this often in a big part of our lives, in the search for love and acceptance of others, we even build entire ecosystems around our emotions and feelings.
We call them friends, family, loved ones, and foes. As humans we need to understand better that these labels are only of the physical world, and only there to help us better deal with and understand the universe that is so mis understood or marvel to us.
There are 3 words that are misused on a daily basis.
These words are extremely powerful, but they also severely inhibit the real meaning of them if used too much. If you constantly do something over and over it’s real meaning becomes less important, it degrades the meaning of what it is by overuse. If you never drank a beer and had 1 beer you may be buzzed or even drunk when finished. But if you drink beers all the time it will take you a good deal of beers to get drunk. You build up a tolerance to it. That tolerance is included in spoken word.
Use them carefully and only when a person is deserving of it and you truly mean it. For this simple reason I believe that our society has gone down hill in morality and respect. We are a shell of our former self because everyone is seeking approval either blatantly or hidden. The people who say they don’t want it the most. The people who constantly judge others are not secure in themselves. To judge others actions without knowing the full script is like reading a chapter of a book and labeling it good, or bad, it is faulty and in general, ignorant. Some of the smartest people in the world are at times arrogant. Which is ignorance with an air of being right around it.
This one is the biggest sinner of them all.
Love is the most complex emotion we hold. We strive our entire lives to be loved, to be accepted by others, we do things to gain the love of some, and we contort our realities so that we can better vantage our position with our to be loved or loved ones often unknowingly or subconsciously.
True love doesn’t judge, it doesn’t label, it doesn’t talk behind your back what it wouldn’t say to your face.
Simply, an emotional bond between 2 people or more. It is even love between a person with themselves. Love is all around us. Love will find a way and save the day just like Tesla said.
But when we use the words “I love you, I love this, I love that” we trample the meaning. It is not to be thrown around like a sound byte, a phrase to cast at people whenever you feel a connection with them. I take very seriously the people I say I love you to. I don’t love many people. I Like many people, I save my love for a select few. When people talk about they love this one and love that one I believe they may not fully love themselves.
One can’t claim love, one can show it silently and fully. Love knows no boundaries, there isn’t an ulterior motive behind it, there is no desire to bolster one’s own ego by attaching this word to everything one does. It is important not to throw words around loosely. It is important to truly mean what you say when you say it. When someone tells everyone they love them it lowers the efficacy of their love. How much love does a person have? Is it finite or forever infinite? Because love is such a complex emotion it should be saved like your best china for only special occasions.
Here is one, that may possibly be number 1 on the list as well. Friends. What is a friend?
A friend as defined by the dictionary is:
A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
Let’s break that down.
Knows likes AND trusts.
A friend is someone who will aide you who will guide you and who will help you along your journey. As you would help them. I think the word friend is tossed around so easily it’s insane!
In today’s society we call everyone friend, if everyone is our friends then this really suppresses the true meaning of those that we DO care and love for. Everyone CAN NOT be our friends. You have acquaintances. These are people who you like and like to be around. To move to the friend moniker they have to be special. Another huge culprit is the overuse of “BEST” friend.
Best friends are those that are their for you through thick and thin, and not because you can help them grow, or help them make money or help them with anything simply because THEY CHOSE TO BE THERE. To throw around BEST friend loosely is sad. My best friends are all over 15 years some 20 years of knowing. Thats a best friend. Not someone you just met and decided because they have like similarities they are your best bud. that’s silly.
Stop that if you are doing it right now.
Recently I met some grown men who portrayed people of 2 years to be BEST friends, so much they would die for the other person? What? LOL. OK Charles Bronson…
This is a prime example of the deterioration of the true meaning of friendships.
Friends ride for each other. They help each other and it has NOTHING to do with position, status or ego. It just is. Ready to ride, ready to go no matter the cost, even if you are wrong in the face of others you stand as right, right now. I will deal with you behind the scenes if you ARE wrong.
People toss around the word respect far too easily. I respect this, I respect that, I respect him / her / we or you.
Respect is earned.
You don’t get respect out of the gate.
You must deem yourself worthy to be capable of dealing the same respect back. If one can’t, one should not get full on respect. I don’t mean be a jerk to them, just understand full on respect comes from knowing, liking and trusting a person. A friend. A family member. People mix up cordial and civility to others in the street as respect. Hold a door, speak gently, be kind, be courteous these are all respectful traits. They are more so traits of a civilized caring society.
Some act as they are owed respect because they have done a, accomplished b, gained c, or grown d. None of that means anything. Some of the wealthiest people on the planet are also some of the devious and immoral, some are also the kindest and gentle souls, being accomplished does not get my respect automatically.
The word Respect should be like Love and Friends not overused.
Respect is an important part of living in civilized society as well as the uncivilized animal kingdom. Understand we are all different. To say you respect someone, mean it. Or don’t say it.
This blog post is a little tough. I hope it educates anyone reading it to be a better person with our words and their uses. If you love this share it with your friends or leave a comment.