Alone. Silence. The feeling of a void. So many of us have this feeling.
That’s why we fill our time, with Facebook Posts, friendly gatherings, longer than needed phone calls. The deadly silence scares us. We even attach ourselves to people and groups so we can feel less afraid, less small, less alone.
There is a reason a spiritual trip is done often alone, a reason obtaining a black belt and the rigors that come with that are done alone, there is a reason you die alone.
Being successful isn’t that hard, what’s really hard is allowing yourself to feel worthy of success.
What’s really hard is coming to this realization alone.
What’s really hard is to stop being a weakling.
You can write all you want, and make loud videos all you want about how you are an animal, you are a beast, you are a warrior. (Oh my) but if you need others to be great you my friend are far from any of those things.
In fact you are weak. You are weak if you need others to validate you.
You are weak if you need anyone to tell you how great you are and make it OK for you to seek said greatness.
You are weak if you NEED a team outside of normal business operations. Sure you should have coaches and mentors. But NEEDING them is different than WANTING them.
Sorry if the truth hurts. I spent a good portion of my life in a weak state. Too afraid, too scared to claim my birth right. Waiting, looking for someone else to show me the path. I got news for you no one has the guide to your path. No one has the road map to your life. Only you do. No one is coming to save you. No amount of money will buy you heart. No amount of money will buy you companionship, no amount of money will make you successful without having the guts to first be it in your mind.
I do my dirt all by my lonely – Treach Naughty By Nature
Don’t be weak. Don’t be needy. DON’T look for others to tell you it’s TIME now to be great. Find that alone.
If you can’t find that alone I believe then you have a real issue at hand. You may believe you are unworthy of greatness or success. I never really understood this idea of having to need others to tell you that you can be great. That should always come from within, and if it’s not then I believe you believe you do not deserve greatness. Because somewhere in there you are ashamed of yourself. That is OK. We are ALLOWED to be ashamed, as long as you can identify it, recognize it, then you can change it.
But if you go around and make believe nothing is wrong, jump from mindset to mindset, group to group, lover to lover all you are doing is replacing one evil for the other.
For many that is the real issue. Most people do not believe they deserve success, myself included at some point in my life. And most people will never have the balls to see their own greatness. Because they are too busy being afraid to fit in, what others think, or better yet and this is where gurus prey on.
Lack the internal courage and mental fortitude to simply love yourself, as you are, greatness and faults alike, change what you can change, and accept what you can’t.
Most people won’t come to the conclusion that they are great without someone telling them they are. A lot of people need other people to tell them how great they are. Why? We are all alone beings. We must first be in love with ourselves before we go loving the world. OR proclaiming to have the answers to the greatness of life. My answer is not your answer, nor should it be, nor would I ever expect it from you.
I give you credit my friend, you are smart, you are great, you can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. AS could I. AS could anyone reading this.
You don’t NEED other people to tell you how great you are, you don’t need them to show you, you don’t need them to validate you. You DO need them to help guide you and inform you. BUT.
At the end of the day, you are in the drivers seat, you are in control, you hold the key to greatness, and you hold the lock. All you have to do is turn it. You don’t need anyone else around, or to help you turn the key. But you knew that already. Didn’t you? 🙂
Wishing you greatness in 2015 and beyond.
Happy New Year!
“Of all the ways we have found to hurt ourselves, the worse has been through love. We are always suffering because of someone who doesn’t love us, or someone who has left us, or someone who won’t leave us. If we are alone, it is because no one wants us…”
― Paulo Coelho, Warrior of the Light