Do you feel that the more successful you become the more you are being trapped in work, or in a seated position behind a computer? Well I am here to tell you that this feeling can be maddenning because I have felt it and still feel it at points.
Here’s an ah-ha moment, the moment a task becomes “very important” we build up a wall of resistence around it. Ever notice when you should be doing something other things that you don’t love to do suddenly become more important and easier, and almost desirable
Yes it is crazy the way the mind works. The minute we need to be doing something we don’t want to and we would rather do dishes. . GASP. Dishes you say? No way not dishes. Well put it this way, if doing dishes was the most important thing on your list you would wind up going to do something else. But the moment doing dishes becomes number 3,4 or 5 then the very important item like get your car fixed becomes more attractive.
Surrender is everything in life, however your time is also your life. You should guard your time with your life. Do not give it away irresponsibly.
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Here are 3 tips to take away that will help get you into the groove of work and closing out work earlier so you can enjoy more time with your family and friends. Plus no one likes a burn out.
1) SAY NO
This is my problem eternally, I am such a creative’s creative that so many projects that come across my desk look fun awesome and intriguing. However when you are trying to create something great every moment counts. Most good hearted people want to help others but what happens is when you give away too much of your time you become stressed out, and then eventually burned out resenting the work or the person YOU agreed to do. Don’t do that. Save both people trouble. A simple set up is a 3 step question that helps me figure out if the project is worthy of my time and if it is in adherence to my overall goals.
a) Is this project going to be fun?
This is SUPPPPPPERRRR important, don’t take work just for money. That’s a job. Believe me jobs are much easier in stress load than owning a business, if you are only looking to pay the bills, get a job you will thank me in the future.
B) Is this project in alignment with what I do well or want to do well, and will it bring me exposure?
Sometimes we do projects to better our career, if Jay Z asked us to shoot a music video most likely we would because of the impact it can have on our career (as long as we got credit for it)
c) Can they afford me?
This is a big one, many projects will come your way but not all prospects will be able to afford you. They say you should be turning down 20% of your work due to price restraint, if you are not your prices may be too low (A post for another day). This will lay the groundwork if you can take the project or not, after all no one is business to lose money.
If the project meets 2 of the criteria you have a decision to make or a judgement call if you will. If a project is fun and will give you great exposure and you want to do it, but the budget isn’t there, we have done these sort of projects and sometimes they have propelled our career so much faster and farther than if we did not. That is your call. Deal with these on a per project basis.
If the project meets all 3, then you have a winner. If it only meets one, unfortunately that project is not for you. Pass it up you will save yourself tons of stress.
The more you say NO the more you will be doing exactly what it is you need to be doing going forward. Saying NO is sort of frowned upon in our world for some reason, but the lack of saying no or saying yes to things you don’t want to do has much more negative impact on everyone involved. People respect people who are honest and to the point, don’t be wishy washy and don’t be scared to say what you feel.
2) Warm Up.
When I train weights or Brazilian Jiu Jitsu we always warm up. It sets up the central nervous system to deal with the added stress to the body, it sharpens the mind, and it gets the lymphatic system and blood moving so you are at your peak capability. This is no different than work. For a long time I used to put the most important thing way up top on the list, and then try to work down from there. The amount of stress that actually came from that was incredible. Many times the big item didn’t get done, and lots of little things did. See the link in the opening paragraph for this weird ritual us procrastinators do. Now what I do is put a few inconsequential or important items but ones without deadlines up top. This makes the most important item seem more desirable to do (remember the dishes analogy) it also allows you to get a few quick win falls by knocking out simple stuff you feel great and productive, before you know it you reach for that big item and blast away at it. Just try not to make too much noise doing it.
Warming up is a crucial part of all exercises both physical and mental.
3) Pay yourself first.
About 7 years ago a friend of mine, and also a star on the hit series Jersey Shore (Jonny the Unit) gave me a business book to read. This book changed my life and existence. It was called Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiosaki. There was a phrase in it which I am going to take right now and tell you about. It is called paying yourself first. In business to get ahead you must pay yourself first. This sounds selfish but it isn’t. Look let’s face it, I can’t help anyone if i can’t help myself first. Just like on a plane they tell you put your mask on first to help another, if you go out, you are useless and of no help to anyone. Take care of home base first. Then venture outward. When it comes to productivity you have to put yourself and your objectvies first. After all they are YOUR goals. Only you can accomplish them, and life will definitely attempt to side track you if you let it. Remember I told you about warming up? Warm up with your top 3 important things you need to do for yourself first thing each morning. Do not do client work, do not do bills, do not check emails. Whatever is pressing for your own goals to happen use THAT as your warm up. Start up the engines with your own stuff not only will you feel great, you will feel accomplished. Getting your own stuff out of the way first will pave the way for you to do KILLER work for your clients. Everyone knows when you love yourself first you can then have meaningful lasting relationships, but until you put yourself first you will always be working to make someone else happy. Make yourself happy first then you can make others happy.
This is so simple yet so over looked.
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